Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Heartbroken for Friends

I don't know what to say or do.
Two people who I care deeply about are no longer.
They have called off their engagement.
Their June wedding is cancelled.
Their relationship is over.
I don't know the details, as no one is ready to talk.
I'm really distrought over this.
I can't even imagine how they feel.
This is one of my close friends... someone I've known since I was a teenager.... a former roommate...... a friend of the family.
Throughout the years this persons fiance became my friend.
They are both my friends.
Both were at our wedding in St. Thomas.
Their relationship is one that I cared about and one that I was rooting for like no other.
I can't imagine what it feels like to have your wedding planned and life partner chosen, just to have it pulled right out from under you.
The grieving.
The healing.
The starting over.
I mean, I didn't even know they were having problems.
But I felt something...
something was wrong and I expressed that to Bryan weeks ago.
I don't know why because I haven't spoken to either of them in a while.
It was just a gut feeling I had.
My gut's crazy like that......
I wish I was in California and could see them, but they're not ready to see anyone.
I want to do something.
There's nothing I can do but let them know I'm here.
I'm still rooting for them.
They were perfect for each other.
Beyond perfect, perfect!
So I thought...


  1. Oh wow... I hope you find a way to comfort them (and yourself).

  2. So sorry to hear this. When ones we love hurt, we hurt too! Maybe time apart will make them realize they should be together. I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

  3. Well if you do find out the details hopefully you can share what happened! This is sad, but better to come out now than after an expensive wedding right? hmmmm...

  4. This stinks big time, but I have to say I applaud them for pulling the plug before walking down the aisle. It's an EXTREMELY difficult decision to make and I'm sure it hurt them immensely to admit it wasn't right. I'll keep them in my prayers.

  5. heart was breaking while reading this...still is! I have been through this exact same thing with one of my close family friends that I grew up with a few years ago. I know your exact feeling....heartbreak, disbelief, helplessness, shock, etc! It is an awful process for everyone involved. My friend ended up working it out with her future husband and after lots of tears and conversations decided to go through with the wedding only to end up getting divorced 8 months later...maybe they shouldn't have gone through with it afterall:( Please know I am thinking of you and praying for everyone involved!!

    Miss you guys :)

  6. oh i am so sorry. that is a terrible feeling for you as a friend...where there is nothing for you to do. i am sure you already know this, but all you can do is wait for them to talk to there when they need you.
    so sorry :(


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